Do you have a rotten neighbor?
My mailbag contains quite a few letters from readers complaining about their neighbors. The way I see it, either we haven't learned how to compromise in a diplomatic fashion or we've become intollerant. Or maybe we're just surrounded by inconsiderate people.
Granted, when neighbors prance around their backyards in the buff in full view of the children, plaintiffs have a valid gripe, in my opinion. But sometimes the lines get blurred when, for instance, someone isn't on board with their neighbor's choice of plants or fences. I wasn't in love with my neighbor's new solid white vinyl fence, but in all fairness, it's his fence. It's a free country.
A former neighbor loved wildflowers. Her front yard was, in my opinion, a mess. And she was so proud of it. You see where I'm going with this?
But years ago, I had neighbors who installed an "in ground" pool. I use the quotation marks because it wasn't in ground in the traditional sense. Instead of excavating to a depth that would accommodate the pool, they pretty much laid the pool on the ground, put in a 6-foot-tall retaining wall and brought in truckloads of topsoil to raise their backyard elevation. Next, a 6-foot chain link fence was added atop the wall.
Now, I'm no expert on local building ordinances, but that didn't seem right. The wall dividing our properties went from being 2 or 2 1/2 feet high, to being 6 feet high. And with the fence, we had a 12-foot barrier between us at some points. It didn't help that my property was downhill.
So I did the only thing I could do: I installed 14 evergreens to soften the hardscape. Did I want to do that? Absolutely not. Did I resent the expense? You bet.
People are angry that their neighbor's bamboo, for instance, is invading their yards. I feel your pain, but there isn't much you can do if your neighbor has a penchant for the invasive, yet legal, plants. Ditto for English ivy and a host of other perceived nuisances.
In a perfect world, a friendly chat with the neighbor would result in a compromise. But in the future, you might want to check with rottenneighbor.com before buying a new house. Just in case.







